Have you ever taken the time to think about where you are getting your sense of validation? Support? Worth? Value?
Many of us are relying on others for this sense of well being. What??? Sad, but we have all been there. We see it in young people all the time. Children are almost always looking for approval from their parents or their teachers, and it's perfectly normal.
But what happens when we bring that neediness into our adult lives? Well we all must admit that it feels good when we get that validation. When a boss tells you you're awesome, or your boyfriend tells you you're pretty, we glow a little brighter, right? At least for a few minutes.
The lesson here, my cupcake, is that we must not rely on others for our self confidence and our sense of well being. First, you don't really need it. You know the areas of your life where you are excelling, as well as which areas need a bit of TLC. As long as you are aware of where you could use a little growth, you are perfect, just the way you are! Awareness is key!
Whether you call your faith the Universe, God, or Mother Nature, in the eyes of your faith, YOU ARE ALREADY SHEER PERFECTION!
According to Joel Osteen, we "shouldn't put the pressure of reinforcing our self-worth on those around us. They've got their own issues to deal with!"
Yes it's great to receive a compliment from people we care about or look up to, but nurturing your self-esteem is really YOUR responsibility, my love! And mine!
I know how I want to live my life and how I want to relate to others. I know that I am living the best life I can live and that I'm being a good person to all the people and animals around me! I am learning the things that I feel I need to learn in order to excel in my career. I'm surrounding myself with the beautiful things that make my every day living enjoyable. Building my own cupcake-life!
Believe me when I tell you, this is an ongoing journey full of becoming aware and learning and decision making. Am I perfect at it? Hell no! BUT! As long as I am doing these things and moving myself toward who I have chosen to become, the better I feel about myself.
This is something that requires persistence and lots of thought, but as I grow, my need for approval from others shrinks! As that need shrinks, the easier I am to be around, because I'm really ME! Not a version of me that is only ok if the constant positive feedback is there.
So again, I will tell you, you don't need the reassurance from everyone around you. You need it from yourself. And creating a life you are proud to live is the best way to get that reassurance internally - from yourself!
Yes, take those compliments with a smile and a thank you, but don't live on them! Create a beautiful life for yourself, so those comments are just the sprinkles on your cupcake!
The cupcake itself? Your self esteem?...you got that!
Love,
Donna
PS. If you need a little help or push, get in touch with me and we can work on it together!!
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