Before we get started today, I want to let you know that we will get into much greater detail on goal setting a little further on down the road. These first days of blogging are just to get you thinking about YOU!
Who are you vs. who you want to be.
What you have vs. what you want.
How you live vs. how you want to live.
What relationships you are in vs. what relationships you want to be in.
You get it. Maybe you have exactly everything you want and live exactly how you want to live. If that is the case then I want to meet you! Just about everyone has some place in their life that could use a little work or a little TLC. Well cheers to you!! You are in the right place to get it all figured out.
Because this process of creating your best life shouldn't be excessively painful, I decided to write about the fun part early on in the game. My friend and Coach, Cara Alwill Leyba has written three books that will change your life. RUN....do not walk...to Amazon and get the following books:
Sparkle
The Champagne Diet
Fearless and Fabulous
Anyone wanting a better life needs to own these and live by her principles.
One of the many outstanding ideas that I learned from Beautiful Cara is the importance of celebrating something every single day. You may be thinking, "Really Donna? My kid is throwing up, my dog pooped on the floor, I'm broke, my car is making a new noise that no one can hear but me, my boss is hideous and I feel fat. What am I going to celebrate?"
Well let me tell you, my little skeptic... There is something for you to celebrate every day of your life. So break open the bubbly, or your beverage of choice and check these ideas out:
1. Celebrate the fact that you got through a day with a sick kid! THAT is an accomplishment!
2. Celebrate the fact that you remembered to wear your sunscreen!
3. Celebrate the fact that you didn't run your boss over in the parking lot!
4. Celebrate the fact that you have a car and a job and a dog in your life!
And the biggest reason of all....
5. Celebrate the fact that you have reached a place in your life where you can recognize that a few things need to change.
6. Celebrate the fact that you now realize that YOU are in control of what is happening in your world.
How freeing is it to know that while everything in your life may not be perfect at the moment, you can change it and mold it and turn it into exactly what you want it to be. You have everything you need right now to turn it all around for yourself.
So YES YES YES!! Break out that beautiful glass of whatever you want and really feel good about what is about to happen!!!
.......what are you waiting for?
Monday, October 13, 2014
Saturday, October 11, 2014
Brilliant Day 5... Thinking about what you really want!
....So you think you can't fit it all into your life? If you're careful you can, I promise you. There are a few steps you must follow in order to fit all of the important things into your life and your schedule.
The first thing you need to do is set clear goals. I learned a lot about goal setting from the legendary Anthony Robbins. He says that in order to reach your goals, you have to get clear about what you actually want. Makes sense, right? If you're not clear about what you need to accomplish, you won't accomplish anything.
In order to set good, attainable goals for yourself, first you need to have a few categories from which to choose. I'm going to give you a few categories and once you get going, you'll want to add one or two of your own.
1. Physical
2. Financial
3. Home
4. Relationships
5. Work
These are in no order, whatsoever. So choose the one you that sounds most important to you.
If you choose Physical: First, you should take stock of where you are. Are you over weight? Are you a great weight but need to be more toned? Are you toned and fit, but want to make sure your heart is healthy? In this area you might want to get in really great shape - who doesn't. Should you join a gym? Will you go? You'll have to fit it into you schedule. Maybe you just need to go for a quick run each morning or evening. That will take care of cardio as well as firm things up a bit!
Here's a goal I would set: I want my heart to be healthier, so I need to get more physical. I want to run on my elliptical machine that I desperately needed to purchase a year ago. Since I bought it, I've been using it as a clothes rack. My goal is to get on that thing three times per week. Part of that goal is to get a TV set up in front of it, so I don't just walk away when I get tired or bored. I have a goal of bringing a TV in front of it by the end of the week, so I can start using the elliptical next Monday. After I have the area set up, I will go to my 365 Brilliant Days Planner and choose the three days and times I will put myself on that hideous machine. I will put a good movie in and watch 30 minutes of it at a time so I can look forward to continuing the move the next time I work out. If it's too boring and I hate it, I'll schedule to go out running instead. There. Goal set and recorded in my planner.
Would you choose Financial as your goal?: My goal would be to get debt free as soon as possible. I cannot set an exact date until I sit down with all of my bills and create a budget. I'll write down all of the bills and the balances on each one. I'll choose which one to pay off first and focus on that one as much as possible until it's gone, while still paying on the others as well. Once that one is gone, I'll focus on the next. Then the next, then the next. I'll write each payday into my planner and remind myself of which bill I'm continuing to focus on. I may even add up the entire balance of all of my debt and write a new list each payday - if it's not too depressing!!! But keeping track of it in my planner will help keep me focused on it so I don't forget and decide a new pair of Louboutin's would be more important!!!
Maybe you choose to set a goal for your Home: Note your days off. Make a list of everything in your wildest dreams that you'd like to re-do in your home. Start plugging those things into you planner on your days off. Not all at once. Just one or two things on each day. After a while, all of the things you wanted to do will be done. You've scheduled them. You're going to work on them. They will get completed.
Relationships?: Have you been neglecting people who are important to you? I'm guilty of this. Make a goal of contacting one person every other day. Mom, Dad, best friend, new friend, old friend, relative. Do not underestimate the value of your relationships. This is an important goal for everyone to set. Write who you want to call/email/write into your planner. Don't think of it as heartless because its written on paper. It is a reminder.
Remember our friend Albert Einstein: Don't waste time trying to remember things you can write down and look up later!
Last goal to discuss for now: WORK. That four letter word. Do you have your dream job? Are you happy to go to work each day? They say do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life again. Are you doing what you love? We'll talk more about this soon. For now, make a few notes about what your dream job would look like. What do you love to do so much that you'd do it for free?? I think we'd better come back to this one. For now, schedule some time for yourself in your planner to sit down quietly and think about your job. Think about what you love about it, what you hate about it. What you'd rather be doing. Pretend it's a perfect world and you can do anything you want. Get the juices flowing.....
You don't need to know exactly every move you're going to make in every area. You just need to get started. Each month, in our 365 Planners we'll be re evaluating our goals to see where we need to modify them. You will reach a goal and need to find something else! I promise that will happen to you!
Your first goal is just to get started. Get thinking. Get writing. Get going. No commitments, just ideas about your perfect, dream life!!
Get a beautiful glass of Champagne (or your beverage of choice).
We're about to start celebrating every day!!!........
The first thing you need to do is set clear goals. I learned a lot about goal setting from the legendary Anthony Robbins. He says that in order to reach your goals, you have to get clear about what you actually want. Makes sense, right? If you're not clear about what you need to accomplish, you won't accomplish anything.
In order to set good, attainable goals for yourself, first you need to have a few categories from which to choose. I'm going to give you a few categories and once you get going, you'll want to add one or two of your own.
1. Physical
2. Financial
3. Home
4. Relationships
5. Work
These are in no order, whatsoever. So choose the one you that sounds most important to you.
If you choose Physical: First, you should take stock of where you are. Are you over weight? Are you a great weight but need to be more toned? Are you toned and fit, but want to make sure your heart is healthy? In this area you might want to get in really great shape - who doesn't. Should you join a gym? Will you go? You'll have to fit it into you schedule. Maybe you just need to go for a quick run each morning or evening. That will take care of cardio as well as firm things up a bit!
Here's a goal I would set: I want my heart to be healthier, so I need to get more physical. I want to run on my elliptical machine that I desperately needed to purchase a year ago. Since I bought it, I've been using it as a clothes rack. My goal is to get on that thing three times per week. Part of that goal is to get a TV set up in front of it, so I don't just walk away when I get tired or bored. I have a goal of bringing a TV in front of it by the end of the week, so I can start using the elliptical next Monday. After I have the area set up, I will go to my 365 Brilliant Days Planner and choose the three days and times I will put myself on that hideous machine. I will put a good movie in and watch 30 minutes of it at a time so I can look forward to continuing the move the next time I work out. If it's too boring and I hate it, I'll schedule to go out running instead. There. Goal set and recorded in my planner.
Would you choose Financial as your goal?: My goal would be to get debt free as soon as possible. I cannot set an exact date until I sit down with all of my bills and create a budget. I'll write down all of the bills and the balances on each one. I'll choose which one to pay off first and focus on that one as much as possible until it's gone, while still paying on the others as well. Once that one is gone, I'll focus on the next. Then the next, then the next. I'll write each payday into my planner and remind myself of which bill I'm continuing to focus on. I may even add up the entire balance of all of my debt and write a new list each payday - if it's not too depressing!!! But keeping track of it in my planner will help keep me focused on it so I don't forget and decide a new pair of Louboutin's would be more important!!!
Maybe you choose to set a goal for your Home: Note your days off. Make a list of everything in your wildest dreams that you'd like to re-do in your home. Start plugging those things into you planner on your days off. Not all at once. Just one or two things on each day. After a while, all of the things you wanted to do will be done. You've scheduled them. You're going to work on them. They will get completed.
Relationships?: Have you been neglecting people who are important to you? I'm guilty of this. Make a goal of contacting one person every other day. Mom, Dad, best friend, new friend, old friend, relative. Do not underestimate the value of your relationships. This is an important goal for everyone to set. Write who you want to call/email/write into your planner. Don't think of it as heartless because its written on paper. It is a reminder.
Remember our friend Albert Einstein: Don't waste time trying to remember things you can write down and look up later!
Last goal to discuss for now: WORK. That four letter word. Do you have your dream job? Are you happy to go to work each day? They say do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life again. Are you doing what you love? We'll talk more about this soon. For now, make a few notes about what your dream job would look like. What do you love to do so much that you'd do it for free?? I think we'd better come back to this one. For now, schedule some time for yourself in your planner to sit down quietly and think about your job. Think about what you love about it, what you hate about it. What you'd rather be doing. Pretend it's a perfect world and you can do anything you want. Get the juices flowing.....
You don't need to know exactly every move you're going to make in every area. You just need to get started. Each month, in our 365 Planners we'll be re evaluating our goals to see where we need to modify them. You will reach a goal and need to find something else! I promise that will happen to you!
Your first goal is just to get started. Get thinking. Get writing. Get going. No commitments, just ideas about your perfect, dream life!!
Get a beautiful glass of Champagne (or your beverage of choice).
We're about to start celebrating every day!!!........
Where the heck is Day 4??!!
Where the heck is Day 4 you ask?
I am writing this on Day 5! AS PLANNED my lovelies!
The beauty of organizing your life consistently is that you also have the luxury of planning a day off for yourself. I've had today planned for quite a while actually.
I have it written into my 365 Brilliant Days planner and I've been looking forward to it!! Counting down the days as a matter of fact.
My wonderful, fabulous, smart, sexy husband has been out of town. He was back in town for only a couple of days so we planned a romantic dinner - Chinese food to go - some snuggly alone time, and a movie at home date night!
It was so nice!! We were able to spend a nice amount of uninterrupted time talking and catching up. Reorganizing our schedules and planning our next date night for when he gets home in a week or so! Then we..... dot dot dot..... and spent the rest of the evening watching a great movie that we both love!
(....dot dot dot..... courtesy of the Mamma Mia movie)
The beauty of being as organized and thought-out as we are is that now we have something BRILLIANT in our schedules! We don't feel as though we are passing notes and texts to each other. We will look forward to our date, think of something fun to do, and if we start to feel a little lonely, we will think about our date and smile!
Please understand that I am not giving you all this detail to tell you how fabulous my life is. Although it IS. I am telling you this because I want you to understand that every part of your life can be organized. Not just your work and your tasks, but your off duty life as well! And all written down in the same place. Allowing you to create joy and brilliance! Allowing you to build the life of your dreams!!
With a little planning and carefully choosing to say yes or NO, you can probably fit it all in.
And if you feel you can't......
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